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Jun 9, 2006

Yvette Cade appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show in May to raise awareness about domestic violence. In October 2005, Cade was set on fire by her estranged husband, Roger B. Hargrave, at her workplace. Her interview on The Oprah Winfrey Show was her first public appearance in which she discussed the attack.

Cade talked about Hargrave’s constant verbal and physical abuse. Like many domestic violence victims, she said she felt embarrassed, ashamed and guilty for exposing her daughter to the abuse. “Children are innocent, they don’t deserve to see those images,” she said.

Despite being badly burned and scarred, Cade says her outlook is positive. She has endured more than 17 surgeries and numerous painful physical therapy sessions. Yet she came home in half the time her doctors expected. “I don’t care what people think when they look at my face,” she said. “I know what it feels like to be pretty, so if they don’t like it, that’s too bad.”

After Cade’s interview, Oprah said, “So, for every single person who is watching this right now, you have heard Yvette’s story and that is no accident. That is a whisper and a message to you today, if you are involved in an abusive relationship to do something about it. Let Yvette’s life be an example for your life. Take her strength and her bravery and her courage and allow yourself to have the same.”

National Domestic Violence Hotline Executive Director Sheryl Cates told the audience that women should be alert to warning signs of domestic violence: jealousy; controlling behavior; verbal abuse; threats to you, your family or your pets; and isolation from friends and family. After Cade’s appearance, calls to the National Domestic Violence Hotline increased dramatically. The Hotline directed calls to local service providers who had been notified in advance to be ready to handle a surge in calls.

On June 2, Hargrave was sentenced to life in prison for first- and second-degree attempted murder. Judge Richard A. Palumbo continues to fight misconduct charges for violating judicial standards in Cade’s case by dismissing her protective order just weeks before the murder attempt. Judge Palumbo was also allegedly rude and dismissive to three other women who sought orders of protection in his court.

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